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164 | Happiness: The Power of Self-Acceptance in Transforming Your Life

In episode 164 of Life Coach BFF Show, we dive deep into the topic of self-acceptance, particularly for women navigating their 40s and 50s. Join me as we explore the journey of embracing imperfection and finding peace within ourselves.
 
Key Points Discussed:
Understanding Self-Acceptance: We'll explore what self-acceptance truly means and why it's essential, especially during midlife. From acknowledging our strengths to embracing our flaws, we'll discuss the importance of loving ourselves unconditionally.
Challenging Societal Expectations: In a society that often glorifies youth and perfection, we'll unpack the unrealistic standards placed on women as they age. Discover how to challenge these expectations and redefine beauty and success on your own terms.
Practical Strategies for Self-Love: I'll share actionable tips and techniques to cultivate self-love and compassion in your daily life. From practicing gratitude to shifting negative self-talk, you'll learn practical strategies to nurture a positive relationship with yourself.
Building a Supportive Community: Surrounding yourself with uplifting and empowering individuals is crucial on the journey to self-acceptance. We'll discuss the importance of building a supportive community and seeking connection with like-minded individuals.
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163 | Network Marketing Success: Michelle Cunningham

Welcome back to another empowering episode of Life Coach BFF Show! Today, we're diving into the world of video branding with none other than the remarkable Michelle Cunningham.
Michelle, a former top network marketing leader, has evolved into an influential figure in the realm of online branding, earning her the title of "The Queen of Video Branding."
Takeaways from today's show:
From Network Marketing to Video Branding Royalty: Michelle's journey from a top network marketer to a renowned expert in video branding is nothing short of inspiring.
The Power of "Own Your Awesome": Michelle's mantra of "Own Your Awesome" is at the core of her teachings.
Impact Through Playful Videos: Michelle's approachable and playful videos on platforms like YouTube, Instagram, and Facebook resonate with tens of thousands of network marketers worldwide. Her ability to simplify complex concepts and make them engaging has garnered her a loyal following.
Do It Anyway, Girl: As an international best-selling author of "Do It Anyway, Girl," Michelle shares her wisdom and insights on overcoming obstacles and pursuing one's dreams fearlessly. 
Building a Seven-Figure Online Brand: Michelle's success isn't just limited to her teachings; she also runs a multiple seven-figure online brand. Her business acumen and dedication to her craft serve as an inspiration for those striving to achieve similar levels of success.
Conclusion:
Michelle Cunningham's journey from network marketing to video branding royalty exemplifies the transformative power of embracing change and owning one's uniqueness.
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And, and I don't have your bio yet and so, but I'll, um, if you don't mind getting that to me and then I'll do the intro before I did the intro with you, we're just going to jump into it. How about that? Okay. That's good. Okay. Welcome to the show. Michelle. I'm so happy to have you here. Finally. I'm excited to be here.
Thanks for having me, Heather. I feel like I've been working on this a while trying to get you here and it's really a unique situation because I haven't heard from your marketing team. I haven't heard from your PR team about coming on the show and you have a book. And so a lot of times I do hear from marketing and PR when someone launches a book, but not you.
I just happened upon you on Instagram and Michelle, you are everywhere. That is the power of, well, there's a lot of things at working to make that happen, but it's good to hear it's working. Yes. It's working. You are everywhere. And you know, they say that everyone knows [00:01:00] something that you don't know, but you're one of those people, Michelle, I feel like, you know, a lot of things that I don't know a lot of things.
So I want to dive into that today, but before we get started, let's talk a little bit about your background because you have been very public. About financial struggles growing up and how that affected you. And can you talk a little bit about that place? Yeah. So growing up, my mom, you know, my parents divorced when I was six.
And so I lived in Connecticut and we lived in a small town called East Grammy, but that little small town, uh, it was a middle class town, right. But we were the kind of the poor kids. My mom was our sole caretaker. So my parents divorced when I was. And so she was a single parent. Um, my older brother was eight at the time.
My younger brother was three and we just got by like every single month, just got by and sometimes didn't get by right where it was like, Oh man, we like ran out of money to get food this month. So let's go to the church and like go down to the basement and get food, which was just like how I grew up.
But I, I remember, [00:02:00] you know, realizing around six or seven that. I was different than those around me, you know, especially around Christmas time to go to friends houses down the road and like they got gifts and we got like a gift or like hand me down gifts or just like I, I started to realize that we were different and that really motivated me like as, as a six year old, I just remember being like, how come they have more money?
Like, how could I make more money? Like, I want to, I want to have money because when you have money, you have choices and you can like buy stuff. And. Yeah. Just like you can have a new outfit and you can look pretty like just there's so much that I just wanted as a kid. Like I just remember, um, panty and shampoo, my, my best friend could afford panty and shampoo.
And it was like my dream, right? It was just so simple, but like, that's where I started and I, I was very much motivated to make money. And so when I turned 12, I was like, okay, I have a lawn mowing business. And you know, then I started babysitting and then I started doing anything to make money just so I could fit in.
And so I've always been very money motivated for that reason. Um, because it, it gave me security that I didn't necessarily have because when we didn't have money, we had to go to the church to get food. [00:03:00] So, um, so that's where I started. That's how it all began. Yeah, I can appreciate that because my parents divorced when I was eight and I really watched my mother being a single parent and it's not easy.
You notice when you're that age, the struggles that your, your parents are having. You really do. And people think that you don't, but what I love about your story is you mentioned in your book about, and your book is do it anyway, girl, we're going to talk about this more. I love this book, but you mentioned about people in the community who would help, who would pitch in and.
and give to your family, which I think a lot of times we don't realize the impact that we can have as individuals on others and what that can mean. Can you think of any time in particular where somebody, you know, reached back and pulled you forward that made an impact on your life? Yeah, I think just growing up, I just remember, like, around the Christmas tree, like, if it was a year where all the wrapping paper was the same under the Christmas [00:04:00] tree, then I knew that it was a good year, because my mom could afford it, and she wrapped all the gifts, right?
But if it was a bad year, all the wrapped gifts were different colors under the tree, and that meant that our community had to come together, and I just remember, like, Opening those and being, like, really thankful for all these people that bought us those gifts, but also feeling, like, a little bit embarrassed, and also feeling like, man, I would love to be the person that gave these gifts.
You know, like, how do I become that person? Right? That was, that's, opening each and every one of those gifts motivated me to want to be that person. So, um, so yeah, but we had an amazing community that just came together and, like, really helped our family, which was really sweet. That's great. So you took those lessons.
Now we're going to really get into it, Michelle, because I've always been intrigued by network marketing. So we're going to fast forward. You got out of college, you had these different jobs, these sales rep jobs. And then at one point you were introduced. I don't know. Can we say the makeup [00:05:00] line? Is that okay?
Yeah, you could say it. Yeah. Mary Kay. So you were introduced to Mary Kay. And you became a rep for Mary Kay. I love your story, how you didn't act on it immediately and you bought all these products and they're all sitting in your house. And I mean, it's the greatest story. It really is. And I always wondered, you know, does anyone ever really make money?
In these network marketing ventures, but I mean, you hit the lottery, Michelle. You really did. Yeah. It's, uh, you know, it's there for anybody who's willing to like figure it out and do the work. Right. And so when I first signed up at 23, I just graduated college or 22 years old, I was too nervous and too shy.
And they're like, you're going to meet people by walking up to them in like parking lots. I'm like, that's like horrifying. I'm like, I'm not doing this. Right. Right. And so. Uh, and I was living in Massachusetts at the time. I was a pharmaceutical sales rep, but you know, and so for the next six years, I just stayed stuck.
I stayed in safe corporate jobs. And I was like, I know I want [00:06:00] to make this work. Like, how do I do it? And so I, at 29 years old is when I drew a line in the sand and I said, you know what? Enough's enough. I am fed up enough with my job. I don't want to do this anymore. I know one day I want to have kids and I want to be the stay at home mom.
And so I've got to figure out a way. Like, you know, the definition of insanity is to continue to do the same thing and expect a different result. And I'm like, if I continue to stay here, I'll continue to have a corporate job. I'll continue to have a boss. I'll continue to make the same money. So I'm like, let's just pivot.
Like, let's just quit this job. It's pretty radical move. And I'm going to go all in and I'm going to try to figure out how to make this work. And so I remember drawing a line in the sand. And I listened to Tony Robbins Burn the Boat. It's a, it's a YouTube, but he swears in it, so you can't listen to it with kids around.
But like, but it was just like, if you are not achieving your dreams, you have not drawn the line in the sand. You have not put yourself on an island and said, you know what? I need to make this happen. And I was like, he's so right. Like, actually, yeah, I haven't done that. You know what? Okay, 29. I'm going to go for it.
I'm going to, I'm going to draw a line in the sand. I'm going to give myself six months. I'm going to figure this out. [00:07:00] So I did things that were very scary for me, which was like reaching out to a lady that worked for the same company and saying, Hey, any chance you could like show me the ropes? Like, I don't really know what I'm doing.
And my leader lives in Florida and I'm here in Ohio. And she took me under her wing. Her name was Maggie. She's one of my dear friends today, but she's like, I'll show you how to do it. And so she showed me what to do as, and what was great about Maggie is, is like myself, she's, she's introvert. Um, she actually suffers from social anxiety and she hates talking in front of people.
And so she showed me how to build this business without walking up to strangers. And I learned her system and I'm like, I can do this. And six months after meeting her, I had finally earned a free car. Uh, I was at 500, they'd recruited, uh, 50 people at that point. I had over 300 new customers. Customers, um, and was making about $5,000 a month at that point.
But I was like, you know what, I can live on 5,000 a month. Like let's do this. Like this is what I'm gonna do. And so that was the decision I made. Um, and, and then just grew it from there. Showed my team how to do what I was doing and they did it. And I grew it to over a thousand people on my team. And we did over 10, eight feet.[00:08:00] 
Figures in sales, uh, just like 13 million in sales as a team. And I got paid on that. Right. So I made a pretty consistent six figure income for many, many years, drove a pink Cadillac. Right. And just like changed my life and my confidence and my belief in myself. And so I love the industry. It's, I am so thankful for my time being in the industry.
I was there for 17 years, but only 10 actually working. And it, it changed the way that I think about business. I met so many positive people, learned so many lessons. And so, uh, I highly recommend. That industry for anybody. I mean, it's just a great way to learn how to be an entrepreneur. Yes. And I bet you got a lot of attention in this pink Cadillac, Michelle, because you could not help but notice the pink Cadillac.
Yeah, it was a lot, but you had to always look good. You know, you couldn't, couldn't just look like a mess in the pink Cadillac because you were representing. So you had to really get done up to go in your car, but I, I loved it. And my license plate said makeup. Uh, it really was kind of awesome. It was like my dream.
And I got to drive my daughter home from the hospital in a pink Cadillac, which was, that was my dream. [00:09:00] So did you take a lot of orders in the Walmart parking lot? No, I never approached flagging you down. Nothing. No. It's funny. I never once sold anything because of that pink Cadillac. The only thing that that pink Cadillac attracted was teenage boys who thought it was really cool and old men like, like 70 or older, they would come up and be like, tell me about how you earned this.
But any woman who saw it, they would walk the other way. At least this was my experience. They were like, leave me alone. You're going to try to tell me something. I'm like, I'm not going to sell anyone anything. Right. So I never sold just from my pink Cadillac. I sold in other ways. Yeah, that's so fun. Okay.
So let's talk about this book. What inspired you to write this book? Like what did you think? I want to help other women because I really love when women learn and then they are successful and then they share. And I feel like that's what you do in this book. Yeah. I think that, you know, I felt broken for so long that I was like, if I ever figured this industry out, I'm not going to keep it a secret.[00:10:00] 
I'm going to tell absolutely everybody. And so that's what I did is I decided to write that book to just give the journey of like, you know, it wasn't all just a walk in the park. And I also had terrible parties and I also had funny incidents and bad unicorns. I tell funny stories about like, you know, the bad smelling elevator I was on and this like crazy party I went to.
But like I share those stories because, you know, being an entrepreneur is not always a walk in the park. But I think that all of those experiences make us stronger. Like I, I think everyone needs to go through challenging times because he just puts a shield around you where you're like, you know what, I'm kind of feeling like invincible now.
Like I've been through that incident, if it happens again, I know how to handle it. And so, um, so I decided to write the book just to share the journey of like, I'm just a shy introvert from humble beginnings who grew up with nothing. I figured it out. Here's how I did it. So if you need a game plan, here it is.
And so that book is, is perfect for the introverted it and it's introverted network marketer or direct seller, but there's also entrepreneurs who buy it. You know, yoga instructors are like, I use a lot of your strategies from your book. And I'm like, that's so funny, but it [00:11:00] does. It is kind of a universal book where you can use it.
No matter what you sell, you know, we all need leads. We all need to connect with people. And so I share a lot of those strategies in there. Yeah. And I feel like there are a lot of messages in your book that can apply just to life in general. I mean, I would love for my kids to read your book. There are just so many good takeaways from this.
And yeah, I do want to get to where I'm working to go over some quotes from your book in just a minute, Michelle, but what do you think I want you to define? Because you talk a lot about resilience. That's an overall theme in this book. I feel like. And what do you think is essential, an essential part of gaining resilience for personal growth?
I think the biggest part is you have to take action and you have to fall down, right? And you have to have challenging, you know, it's things that happen in your life. And so every time I've had something happen, that makes my stomach like turn where I'm like, Oh, that was so terrible. You know, whether it be a customer of returning something or, uh, you know, taking someone off back then that I texted too many times, or, you know, I've done all those things.[00:12:00] 
It's like, Oh man, sorry. I like didn't mean to do that. Right. But that, that made me stronger. And as I would get through those moments, I realized, you know what, did that break me? No, it didn't. Okay. So we can keep going. And so that all of those experiences, anything that's challenging that someone goes through, I say, Take it like just celebrate that that's happening because the next time it happens, you know how to handle it and, uh, you know, I very specifically remember accidentally it was an accident, but I accidentally ticked off someone I knew that was like my biggest fear in my whole life was like that I would accidentally ask someone too much, like, you know, because as a network marketer, you're like, Hey, I don't know if you'd be interested in this.
I got this thing, but I asked her one too many times. And that day she just laid into me in a text. Message. And I was like, I was in so much pain in my stomach. I was like, oh my gosh, I feel terrible because I might see her out. Like, this is so embarrassing. But I was like, okay, well, we can't sit here and be sad about this.
We have to figure out a solution. So I'm like, okay, what's my solution? I'm like, you know what? We're going to write a sorry note. Yeah, that's good. We'll write a sorry note. We'll put it in the mailbox. We'll put the flag up and then we'll be like, we're done. We're done with that. Right? So I wrote her a sorry note.
I think [00:13:00] I sent her a refund for her order. You know, it's like, I just want to apologize. I'm so sorry. And I didn't mean to, you know, upset you, oh my gosh, you feel terrible, right? Sent the sorry note, put the flag up, and I'm like, okay, done, we're not thinking about that anymore. Right? And I moved on from it.
And so, you know, a lot of times people let those little moments, like, like, shut them down, right? And they're like, oh, that was so awful. And I'm like, no, no, we have to get through that. And then we, we, It becomes stronger and we get to the other side and then, and then when you get through those, you're able to then share with your team or other people that you're showing, Hey, when that happened to me, here's how I handled it.
So I think we need to have all of those challenging times so that we can teach others how to handle them. I agree. I agree. And you know, times like that, they really affect your self confidence. And so how do you tell women, or I guess there's some men that, you know, probably take your courses, you know, how do you tell them to get past that, to believe in themselves and, and really build up their self confidence?
Yeah. So, you know, I, again, I try to like, you know, I try to come [00:14:00] up with a way to like get it gone and then not relive it. Right. So I put it in the mailbox, I get rid of it and then I don't go back inside and call my friend. I'm like, I got to tell you a terrible story. Right. I don't, I don't try to keep reliving those moments instead.
I just forget about them. And I was sharing that with some of my students today. I was like, you know, they say, how do you, how do you not get overwhelmed with like all the things you have to do? Like, how do you, how do you, You stay there and I'm like, well, I think that our brain is like having all these little doors, right?
There's like the laundry door and there's the this door and there's the create this door and there's this issue that you're having door. I try to keep the doors all closed and I only open the one door, right? So if something is bothering me, right, I shut that door and I'm really good at forgetting what was bothering me.
Like I, even this morning I was I'm like, what was it? I'm like, eh, it's fine. I don't remember. We've shut that door. Like, I don't even remember what was bothering me. And I think that's a good skill to develop that let's just isolate it, shut it back down. Do we need to worry about that? No, let's focus on the thing that matters the most to bring revenue to our business or to make impact or love on our kids.
Whatever door is open. Let's just focus on that. So that's big for me [00:15:00] is not opening all the doors at once because then you feel crazy. Yeah. And it sounds like you're really good at handling failure and setbacks just, you know, because a lot of people can't turn it off like you can, but I'm, yeah, labor and just pivot, you know, when things happen.
That you that are uncomfortable, you just have to pivot. And like one of my daughters called yesterday and she said, mom, I was at work and we had a situation and she goes, I thought about you and I thought it's time to make a new plan. And it sounds like you're really good at that, Michelle. Yeah. Yeah. I think that's the only thing that you can do, especially when you own a business.
Right. My business has grown so big now that it's like. there's always something going on, right? Like every hour, it's like there's this, there's that, there's this, right? And I'm like, bring it on. It's like fun, like a challenge, right? So I think when you look at it as like challenges and opportunities and, and a chance to grow, I think it's, it's awesome.
So, um, so yeah, no, I agree. Being an entrepreneur is not for the faint of heart. But it makes you so strong. And I think it's really good. It's [00:16:00] true. And I love one of your themes or your mottoes is do it anyway. And I have a sign in my laundry room that I've had, it's like a little chalkboard sign for probably 20 years.
And it says, I can't do this, but I'm doing it anyway. And I think that's the mindset you have to have as an entrepreneur. Yeah. You know, I named that book do it anyway, girl, because when I went to that Maggie's meeting and she kind of, she was standing in front of the room, she was the, the one that was going to teach me how to do this direct sales thing.
She said, I want y'all to remember one thing and I was like, okay, she's like successful women feel the fear and do it anyway. And I was like, really? Like I remember that being at a, as 29 years old, I was like, I didn't know that actually, is that really true? Cause I thought they came from wealthy families.
I thought they had everything handed to them. I'm like. Like, that is truly what I believed and I realized, oh, so I could actually win at this. Like, I could just be a little scared and like, do it anyway. And she's like, yeah, that's how it works. I'm like, oh, like that was a new thought for me. Right. So anytime we're feeling scared or whatever, just a reminder to just [00:17:00] do it anyway, girl, like just do, do that thing that scares you, send that message that scares you, like, just do it because there's so many cool things that come from just stepping into that.
It's pretty crazy. Yeah. What is it? Everything that you want in life is on the other side of fear and I'm such a believer in that. Yeah. It's so true. It is so true. And it's crazy when you go and ask what can happen, like what is available to you? Yes. Okay. You know what? Before we do this, I'm, I'm going to ask you this.
What part has faith played in your, in your life, Michelle, I feel like it's played a big role. Yeah. I, I really truly believe when I met Maggie, Maggie brought me to church, it was the craziest thing. And she had written in. She'd given me a Bible like 10 years prior and she had wrote a Bible verse I can't even remember what it was now, I haven't told this story in so long, but she had written a Bible verse in the beginning of the Bible, right, and she wrote it down.
And she had given me that Bible ten years earlier, and she said, Hey, when we go today, bring your Bible. So I was like, Okay. I brought my Bible. We went to church together. [00:18:00] And I remember the pastor's son was on stage that day, and he's like, Hey, because I remember leaving my house and being like, Yeah, like, maybe if there is a God, like, let there be a sign.
Right? So anyway, so we go to church, and the pastor's son is on stage that day, and he's like, Hey, I don't ever really come up here, but. For some reason, I felt compelled to come here today and share, and I'm not sure why, but there must be a reason for it. And he opens his Bible, and he read the exact, uh, Bible verse that she had written 10 years ago in the beginning of my Bible.
And I was like, I just like burst into tears. And I was like, Oh my gosh. Right. And that was just in a period where I was just starting my business. I was leaving my current job. I was leaving basically like a six figure job to go and embark on this new journey, which was like lunatic really to everyone around me.
Like they thought I had lost my mind, you know, college degree here. I am like, I'm going to, I'm going to go build this makeup empire. Right. I thought it was crazy. And I'm like, I just, I'm, I believed I was made for so much more than that typical nine to five. Um, and I just started crying there. And I just really believe from that point forward, I just, all my decisions have really been God led where, you know, even [00:19:00] as, as my network marketing business grew so big and then I started this other brand and that grew so big when I made the decision to transition right from network marketing to this other thing.
Like, I just believe God had a huge, had all of them, you know, it was like his, he's like, I've got this really big plan for you and, and you're not listening. And so I could tell stories about like how, you know, that's a little further on the story, but like how he threw me adversity and was like, you're not listening.
I have something bigger for you. It's over here. You're not listening. So I truly believe all the little things that are happening in your life. Like, I think there's a big message in that. So for me, it's, it's been so helpful cause it's led a lot of my decisions. And, um, Has, has brought me into a place I never dreamed, like just this bigger business I could have ever, never dreamed to create, which has been amazing.
Did you ever have visions, any God given visions? Like with, with, yeah, I mean, I think in the year of 2019, [00:20:00] I, I definitely like, I, I was thrown a lot of, uh, you know, it was challenging to be in my network marketing business and to also be building my brand. My, it was, it was a little bit difficult to do both.
And so I just remember God saying like, I've got a bigger platform for you, right? Like, You need to be on the cover of a book. You need to be creating these courses. You're going to help internationally. And I'm like, that sounds like crazy, like that I could really, you know, right. And then people from Sweden started to buy my courses and Australia.
And like, you know, I was talking with people with accents, I'm like, Whoa, this is so crazy that like, you know, just putting yourself out there who you can reach. But I did see that like, and, and I said, you know what, I'm going to step into that even though it feels like a little ludicrous. I said, I'm like writing a book and I'm gonna put my face on it or like creating CDs and creating courses.
Like, it feels like silly a little bit, but I'm like, that's okay. In my head. I was like, who do I think I am? I'm like, that's fine. You're awesome. Just do this anyway. So I just like did it, you know, which was scary, but you know, it's crazy when we decide to step into our greatness, how many people you can inspire by the actions that you take and that.
That's it. You know, that, [00:21:00] that really keeps me going because there's so many people that'll message me and be like, because of you, I decided to write a book or because of you, I just, I'm like, really? Like, good. Cause I was really scared when I did that. I thought it was going to be a total flop. Right. Like you just don't know.
Right. But it's, it's so cool. Like what can happen when you just go for it. I agree. And I ask you that because my mother always tells me, you know, people are going to think you're crazy. And I talked about this on Kelly's show about visions that God gave me, that I was going to speak to thousands of people.
And when I realized they were from him, I would just start crying. And, you know, within no time, CNN started calling, asking me to come on to do segments. And I don't enjoy public speaking. So anyway, that's why I ask you that just, you know, I think that people who are doing big things, a lot of times, you know, God has brought these visions, but you're afraid to talk about it.
Yep. I 100 percent agree. Yeah. So thank you. So cool. You've been on CNN, by the way. So fine. So fine. But, um, I'm [00:22:00] very grateful and I'm very honored. And so I just, I give God all the glory for everything that's happened. And I know that you do as well. So, okay. So let's get to this book, Michelle, here's, here's your first quote.
I want you to tell me what this means to you. Best case scenario is you make a ton of money. Worst case scenario is you save a bunch of money and pro. No, that's not my quote. Anyway, that'll be edited out. I forgot I put a star by this one. Okay. They say you become like the five people you spend the most time with.
So if those five people don't lift you up, you need women who bring happiness into your life. Yeah, it's so true. Right. I'm very, very selective about who I have in my space. Right. Like, because there are people that, they will take your energy, right? Or their negative energy, right? Or their needy or whatever, right?
And so, um, I, I surround myself with some really great people and I recommend everyone do that. It's so, so important. So, and you can't always control like in your family, right? [00:23:00] Everyone's got different, family dynamics, but you can still, you know, outside of your family dynamic, you can keep a really core group of friends that you're checking in with and just saying, Hey, how are you going?
Like, how are things going? You know, I have friends that we hop on calls, uh, every few months and we just say, Hey, how's business going? What are you working on? What do you have? Like a lot of strategy that we talk and we share ideas and that's huge. So you need that. And sometimes the people around you don't understand, and they're not always as encouraging as other people who are in your realm.
Yeah, I agree. Okay. Next quote. And when things go ridiculous, I love this point, Michelle, when things go ridiculously wrong, you always have a funny story to share with others. Those are the best. And so I love that you've turned a negative into a positive. And after I read that, I thought, you know, I am going to laugh about these silly things that happened that I do that at the time, I think this was a disaster.
Yeah. It's always a good story. I live for things going wrong. [00:24:00] I'm like, this is a good one. Yeah. So we have all sorts of stories, right? Just crazy stuff that happens, but I love it. I love it. Yeah. I love your outlook on that. All right. God blesses your efforts. You would, you just have to give him something to bless.
This is so good, Michelle. Yeah. It's so true. Like, you know, whenever I'm just thinking like, Oh man, like, am I not getting the results I want? I'm like, but did you really honestly put in the effort? Right. Like, were you really, whatever it is, like even on Instagram, like, Oh, I haven't been growing an Instagram.
Okay. Well, did you really focus on putting out high quality content and were you really consistent? The answer is no. Right. And so when I decided to be really more consistent, Oh, look at that. We're finally growing. And so, right? Like honestly, any effort that we put in, it will be blessed. Maybe not initially, not right away, maybe in a few months, but I believe we've got to be patient, right?
This is not overnight success stuff. None of this happens overnight, but if you can just stick with it and be consistent. Uh, it's crazy. The [00:25:00] blessings that'll come your way or the doors that will open that you don't even anticipate. That's what's so crazy about it. So it's very, very cool. Yes. Yes. What now let's talk about what you're doing now, Michelle, because you just brought something up about helping people with Instagram, and there are a lot of women who listen to this podcast and that I come in contact and through coaching and other avenues, uh, Who have a business, but they're afraid to put themselves out there.
And that is where you have taken your gifts, your God given gifts and talents from what you learned in network marketing. And you are helping all these women. So will you please tell us what you do? Yeah. So is. It's interesting because it's almost morphed over the last few years where initially my whole brand was built on helping network marketers, right?
And so I have a huge brand that's helped network marketers. I've written the book for network marketers. I have a whole coaching program for network marketers, but I also have entrepreneurs like doctors who have reached out to me and Etsy shop owners. And they're like, how do you do what you do? Like I [00:26:00] see your brand everywhere.
I see your videos. Like I want to sell courses like you, or I want like the attention that you get, like how are you doing that? And so I have a whole different training that shows entrepreneurs and I've got, we meet once a week. It's really fun, but it's, it's literally nurse practitioners, physician's assistants, doctors, functional medicine doctors.
I've got lawyers and realtors and just anybody who owns a small business who wants to generate more attention online. I show them exactly how to do that. Like how to use video, be a little cheeky yourself, be like a little weird, just you could be anything, right? Just completely be yourself. And that's it.
I think because I am a little weird and a little quick like, I don't know, I'd say quirky is the word I get the most. I'm a little quirky. But I attract people like that, right? So the people that hire me are all like a little funny and like silly. Um, and so they come on and, and I'm teaching them basically how to continue to show up on social media, build an email list, and then how do we monetize that email list, right?
I know lots of people who have way larger followers than me, but we make way less. They don't know how to generate the revenue from it. And that's what I show people how to do is how to turn your followers into. [00:27:00] I'll actually impact them, like make a big change in their life, but I'll actually make a profit from that so that you can live your laptop lifestyle and have total freedom and be with your family and do what you love.
So, so I do a little bit of both right now. So, uh, I love it. Well, and that's what I meant earlier in our conversation. When I said, you know, so many things that I don't know, I need to take your course, Michelle. I definitely need to. Well, how can we get in touch with you? If someone listening wants to take your course, a small business owner, entrepreneur, or someone who just would like to work on their personal brand, how, how can they sign up?
Yeah, so I, I think the best place to start, I have a course called, uh, Video Superstar, but even before that course, I have a free guide that gives you all of my video equipment that I recommend to make awesome videos, right? Because someone who wants to level up their video game will want to level up like their branding and they'll want to level up and, and eventually make money with those videos.
So I do have, uh, my video equipment tools guide. I would [00:28:00] recommend it's all the video equipment I use to make awesome videos, including, I mean, simple, but I use this little tiny microphone. I plug it right into my phone and I get good audio and I film a lot of my videos right from my phone. And so I share my equipment with you guys totally free.
Um, so that is a great place to start. And then from there, there's a customer journey. You'll see where it'll say, Hey, do you want video? Superstar. And then you'll start getting emails from me. And then eventually you can book a call with my team and my, a coach on my team can talk with you and hear what you're working on and make a recommendation either on something free we have, or they can send you off to, um, you know, they can share more about my elite program.
I've got different training programs. Um, so I love it all. It's so fun. Like I love. It's really fun to watch people's transformations and, and their belief, right? Completely transformed. So that's a good place to start is that tools guide. I love how you serve Michelle. I do. I love your heart. I love the fact that you call yourself a unicorn because I feel like a unicorn myself a lot of days and there are just so many awesome things about you.
All [00:29:00] right, before we go, and where can we find you on Instagram? Yeah, the Michelle Cunningham is where I'm on Instagram. I'm being a little more focused about being on there. So that's where I am on Instagram. Okay. Before we go, can you give us just the craziest story that you've had or experience that you've had In your business journey.
And we're going to end it with that. Okay. This is the best one. So I started making YouTube videos and, um, I just was making them feeling like, who do I think I am making these videos, but I'm going to make them anyway. I'm just going to, you know, we are all perfectly positioned to train the person that we.
We once were right. So I was like, you know what? Okay. I, at the time I was a new network marketer. I had like held a few parties and I recruited a handful of people. So I'm like, I'm gonna start teaching other people who haven't done that and how to do it. Right. They started a YouTube channel and that YouTube channel, uh, started to pick up a little bit speed and people were like, Oh my gosh, this is so helpful.
And I'm like, really? Like, I couldn't believe that they thought it was helpful, but ended up getting a phone call a few months. [00:30:00] Later from a CEO of, of a network marketing company. And he was like, our sales reps love you. They've been begging me to find you and they want you to come and do a training. And I was like, okay, I'm like this.
I was like on the phone to the CEO. That was like, I'd never talked to a CEO in my life. Right. At the time. And I was like, oh my gosh, that's so crazy. And so he goes, um, just let us know your fee. And so I first fall over dead because I'm like, oh my gosh, he's going to pay me. Couldn't believe that. And then number two is I hang up the phone.
He's like, and bring along your training program. You can sell it at the event. And I remember being like, Oh, okay. I said, okay. And I hung up and I was like, okay, first I have to tell him my fee. So I remember telling him my fee of 2, 500, which I thought there's no way they would say yes to that. And they were like, great.
We'll send you a check today. So I was like, Oh my God, I was so new to all of this. I had no idea. Right. And then he said, bring along your training program. I didn't have one. So I created one. So I ended up filming three CDs, just audio. And I brought them along to the event and I sold them. And that simple him saying on the phone, just bring along your training [00:31:00] program.
You can sell it at the event. That simple statement changed my life forever because I brought those CDs to the event. I sold some, I bought them for a dollar, sold them for 17. People bought them and I made money. And I was like, Whoa, that's so crazy. Then the people thank me for the training. I was like, what?
Okay. Like so crazy. Really? They're thanking me. Whoa. And then I brought them home and I had to figure out how to sell the remaining 100 that I had left. I didn't know what I was doing. I threw them on a website. They sat there for two years doing not a whole lot of anything. Then they learned about funnels in 2019.
And when I learned about funnels, and how to get traffic to funnels from Russell Brunson in a book called Traffic Secrets that I learned how to sell my CDs and I had to then order more in and then we started selling lots of CDs and I was like, Oh, but that simple statement changed my life forever because, because of him, I started to create digital courses.
And that's what I do full time now is I'm a digital course creator and it all started because he said, bring along your, your training program. So, um, so listen to those little things. Don't ever say, no, I don't have that. Just how can we make that? How can we create that thing? Let's do this. Let's step into this.
So, [00:32:00] uh, so crazy. Yeah. Start before you're ready. . Yes. Yes. . Thank you so much, Michelle. You have got to promise me that you'll come back again. This was so much fun. Uh, I love you, my friend. Thanks for having me on. I'd love to. I love you. I love you more, Michelle. You're awesome.
 

162 | How to Find Joy in Seasons of Transition: Strategies for Managing Stress, Anxiety, and Preparing for Kids Going to College- the Empty Nest | Free Discovery Call Available

In this episode of Life Coach BFF Show with Heather Pettey, we explore practical strategies for managing stress and anxiety in midlife while preparing for the empty nest and finding joy in seasons of transition. Whether you're facing the prospect of your last child leaving home or navigating other significant life changes, this episode is packed with insights to help you thrive amidst transition.
Key Takeaways:
Discover practical techniques to manage stress and anxiety in your daily life, empowering you to navigate transitions with greater ease and resilience.
Learn strategies for preparing for the empty nest, including tips for finding fulfillment and purpose beyond parenthood.
Explore ways to cultivate joy and embrace the opportunities for growth and self-discovery that come with seasons of transition.
 
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161 | Former NFL Cheerleader and Entrepreneur, Kelly Roach, Shares Career Insights and Faith Integration in Business and Life

Welcome to Episode #161 of the Life Coach BFF Show! In today's episode, we have the honor of hosting Kelly Roach, renowned business growth strategist, best-selling author, and top-rated podcast host. Join us as we delve into Kelly's journey, her insights on entrepreneurship, and her strategies for achieving sustainable business growth.
Get ready to be inspired and empowered. Listen now for a dynamic conversation filled with actionable advice and invaluable wisdom from Kelly Roach.
In this episode with Kelly Roach, you'll learn:
Embracing Challenges: Kelly's journey from an entry-level position to the youngest senior vice president in her company demonstrates the importance of perseverance and embracing challenges as opportunities for growth. You can draw inspiration from Kelly's resilience and apply it to your own career paths.
Transitioning to Purpose: Kelly's decision to transition from corporate America to coaching small businesses highlights the importance of aligning one's career with their values and sense of purpose. You may be contemplating a career change can find encouragement and insights into navigating transitions with confidence and purpose.
Integrating Faith: Kelly's perspective on integrating faith into her business journey offers you a valuable lesson in maintaining resilience and perspective amidst the ups and downs of entrepreneurship. You can reflect on how they can integrate their faith or personal beliefs into their own professional endeavors to find strength and guidance in challenging times.
 
 
•Kelly has a new guide: The 5 Essential Internal Shifts to Soar From 7-8 Figures; download it here!⬇️
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160 | How to Laugh Your Stress Away: How Humor Can Transform Stressful Situations

In episode 160 of Life Coach BFF Show, you'll discover how to-  Laugh Your Stress Away: How Humor Can Transform Stressful Situations.
You will learn:
•The transformative power in laughter and managing stress
•Practical tips to incorporate more humor into your daily life.
 
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159 | Unlocking Midlife Success: Top Goals and Strategies for Women Over 40

In this episode of the Life Coach BFF Show, join host Heather Pettey as she dives into the world of goal setting for midlife women. Heather shares practical strategies for setting and achieving meaningful goals, emphasizing the importance of focus, perseverance, and self-awareness. Drawing from her own experiences and insights, Heather explores common challenges faced by women over 40 and offers actionable advice for overcoming obstacles and staying on track. Whether you're looking to make a career change, improve your health and wellness, or strengthen your relationships, this episode provides valuable guidance and inspiration to help you navigate midlife with purpose and intention.
 
In this episode you will learn:
The importance of setting achievable goals for midlife women.
Strategies for overcoming obstacles and staying focused on goals.
Insight into common goals and challenges faced by women over 40.
Tips for maintaining motivation and momentum throughout the year.
Real-life stories and examples of successful goal setting and achievement.
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158 | No Matter Your Age, You're Not Too Old, and It's Never Too Late with New Orleans Chef and Cookbook Author, Anne Leonhard

No Matter Your Age, You're Not Too Old, and It's Never Too Late with New Orleans Chef and Cookbook Author, Anne Leonhard
 
In this episode Heather and Anne discuss;
~What it's like to be a guest on the Steve Harvey show multiple times.
~How Anne won Food Network's Clash of the Grandmas
~Anne's experience writing a cookbook.
~Why it's never too late to try new things and go after your dreams.
 
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157 | Want Your Life to Look Different in 2024? Listen to This Episode Before You Commit to a New Year's Resolution, Goal Set, or Make a Vision Board!

Are you tired of making plans, and them not working out the way you thought they should?
Do you wish someone would tell you how to improve your life? 
Have you been home with kids for years and wonder what's next?
You are not too old, and it's not too late, and some of the most amazing parts of your life haven't even happened. 
Hey, I'm Heather Pettey, AKA your BFF, life coach, tour guide in life, and encourager. I, along with my amazing guest can help you in your life journey. 
I this episode, I'll teach you how to:
-Plan your life God's way
-Look for the signs that you are being heard
-Remind you that life is hard sometimes, but there is still so much to be grateful for in the beautiful world.
 
I love you, now go get your day!
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156 | Christy Wright Shares How She’s Thriving With ADHD, the Significance of God-Given Visions, and Navigating Life by Faith in an Uncertain World

Thank you for joining my conversation on Life Coach BFF Show with guest, Christy Wright. You will find insights, tips, and inspiring stories about God-given visions, finding success with ADHD, and the twist and turns in the journey we call life.
Christy Wright is a wife, mom to 3 small children,#1 National Bestselling Author, Speaker and Business Coach. She resides with her family in Franklin, TN.
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Heather is a perfectly imperfect wife of 28 years to David, mom to 4 amazing humans ages 12 to 26, and lover of Jesus. She's a closet peanut M&M and Goldfish cracker consumer.
 
She is passionate about supporting and encouraging women to find joy and remain sane while transitioning into new seasons. The laughter and support happens weekly on her podcast, Life Coach BFF Show. When not podcasting, she's coaching women to live confidently, set clear boundaries, and learn to build their fire in the rain.
 
The mindset coach is also the author of Keep It Simple, Sarah: Powerful Words and Encouragement for Christian Teen Girls.
 
Heather has made appearances on CNN Headline News and other media. She believes life is a long line of lessons, and in her opinion, it’s all about faith and good ol' common sense. She happily resides with her family in Memphis, TN.
 
 
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Life Coach BFF show with me, your friend Heather, because we all need a BFF to take this journey called Life With. This is a podcast for midlife women who want to remain sane and find joy while parenting teens. We're [00:01:00] living with purpose and determination to get all the goodie out of life because I believe God.
Made the goodie for his people, you and me. So hop aboard this train of intention. Come and sit on my porch and rest or pop in your earbuds and let's take a walk together. I'm just so grateful you're here.
Hi, Christy. I'm so excited to have you today. Hey, I'm so excited to be with you, Heather. It's gonna be fun. Christy, you are busy, busy, busy. You're a mom of three, a bestselling author, speaker, and business coach, which is all so inspiring.
Could you share some key moments or experiences that led you to this point in your career? You know, it's so interesting because I feel like we have this idea that, you know there's a ladder to where we want to be, whether that's success or in your job, like just climb the corporate ladder.
Like we have this idea of a ladder. And I think it was Sheryl Sandberg that said in her book, [00:02:00] lean in years ago, most career paths are not a ladder you climb or stairs that you walk up, but a jungle gym and you kind of leap from one side to the other. And I think that's a lot of my story where, you know, I'm a person of faith, Heather.
And so. So much of my story is I hope a result of just obedience where when God says, go, I go. And sometimes it makes sense. And a lot of time, honestly, it doesn't. And I see that example in scripture where God calls unlikely people to do unlikely things in unlikely places with no resources and no reasoning or explanation.
And I may not understand it, but I do want to be a person that obeys. And so you know, I've had some years where it was just a compounding effect of, A book and an amazing team and a coaching group and all these things that seem really logical. And then other years where it's very illogical where in November of 21.
My best year yet at Ramsey after being there 12 years overnight, God calls me to leave and, you know, I'm smiling now. Wow. I was not smiling at the time, by the way. But, and that was terrifying. And [00:03:00] then since then, it's like, you know, God says, go here. And God says, go there. And We love to talk about walking by faith, but actually walking by faith is super hard and super scary.
Yes. And and requires a lot of dependence and trust and daily laying it down. And so I think for me, you know, when you, when I look at like where I am today, you know, there's, there's part of you that could go, oh wow, that looks scattered, or it looks like, it's like, no, I, I know that where I am is where God wants me to be.
And if other people get it, that's so great. And if they don't, that's totally okay because I just wanna go where God wants me to go. And sometimes that makes sense and sometimes it doesn't. Oh, it makes total sense to me. And when, one day I've turned on Instagram and there you are, and you were talking about visions that you had had recently, which I have had visions.
And you're almost afraid to share that with people because they go, Whoa. I mean, So you, you don't want to appear crazy, but you know that it's real when it happens, you know that it's real. Could you [00:04:00] share some recent visions? Was this your first time to experience this or when was your first time and what were these visions and how have you acted on these and how do you plan to act?
Yeah. Yeah. Okay. So first of all, I just want to hit on something you said right there, because you said something really important and I think it's a good teaching moment for your audience. This is for all of us. You said you don't want to seem crazy, which is absolutely true, but I think we need to realize that when we're talking about visions or anything.
In the faith world that we cannot see, by the way, or in the natural world, there's fear. Okay. So there's fear. Now you have a choice of which thing you're going to fear. You can fear looking crazy, which is valid because some people will think you're crazy. You might get mean comments on Instagram. If you share, you know, this is what we're talking about.
Like when you share it you can fear that because you may look crazy and people may misunderstand. So that's a very real fear. Yeah. But there's another fear. And the other fear is what's lost. If you don't share it and who's not blessed. If you don't obey [00:05:00] and who's not edified because you weren't bold.
And so either way, there's a fear involved. I can fear looking crazy and people don't understand, or I can fear missing an opportunity for God to use me in someone's life. And I have chosen over time, and this has taken time, Heather, but I've chosen to switch my fear to being more scared. of missing out on blessing someone or God using me to speak to someone, then I fear being crazy.
Either way, there's a fear involved, but I'm like, I'm going to choose this fear. I still fear being crazy, but that's not going to drive my decision. Instead, I'm going to fear. Oh, what if I miss an opportunity to speak to someone? I'll give you a great example. This is not a vision example, but more of an obedience example.
And then I'll give you some visions. The other day, this was a few weeks ago at the time of this recording. So I guess a few months ago actually. And I was launching my online store. Never done this before, never done retail, there's upfront costs, there's logistics, there's shipping, there's all these stuff.
I've already made mistakes and you know, had to learn the hard way on some things. But I'm launching the store and this was the day that I'm supposed to post about it on social media. I've got a real, you know, [00:06:00] highlighting all the different shirts and hats and all the things that me and my business manager, like this is the plan.
This is the day we're going to launch it. And I'm getting coffee. And I just feel the Lord download to me a word for people. And it was something that I have actually been walking in and, and learning from over the previous two weeks. And I just felt the Lord say to share it. And so I grabbed my phone. I recorded a really quick reel of like, here's the frustrating part.
You're in between seasons and you want to let go of the old, but you're not quite taking hold of the new. And you're not sure what to let go of. Here's what you need to let go of. You need to let go of your old way of thinking, because God is not going to bless you in the promised land with your pity party.
And I just kind of go on this. Of what I've been learning spoken to me, it's spoken to me. No amount of money can fix a broke mindset. No amount of opportunities can fix an insecure mindset. So I'm sharing this on that reel, that reel, which I posted on the day I was supposed to promote my store, which has actual costs that I need to make money, you know, for, for this upfront cost, that reel has been shared at the time of this recording 600, 000 times.[00:07:00] 
Oh wow. It has been viewed. More than anything I've ever posted in my entire life, including when I was at Ramsey, which is this massive marketing machine with today's show and yes, there's something in obedience. And so I think that the Lord has trained me so much in obedience, especially in the last two years, since I've been totally free where I'm just doing literally at the whim of what he's asked me to do that.
I've just learned to fear disobedience. More than that's Christy. That is so good. I didn't mean to interrupt you, but that is so good. Well, and that was, that was really my takeaway from Ramsey where people were like, how'd you do it? How'd you do it? And I said, I quickly got affirmed it so many times that I quickly got to the place where I feared disobedience more than I feared leaving.
And I'm leaving a lot. I'm leaving all of my health insurance, my income, my salary, my work, leaving that there, my friendships, but everything going into nothing, by the way, it's not like, Oh, I'm going over here to do this. I knew, I did not know where I was going. But I feared disobedience more than I feared leaving.
And, [00:08:00] and again, it wasn't this fear of disobedience, fire and brimstone, but it was like this very real reverence for the Lord of my, my father, God, that I know he loves me. And so if he's saying to do this, it is because it's good for me. Does it feel good? Does it look good? Doesn't seem good, but I know that it must be good.
If he's called me to do it, of course, in hindsight, two years later, I couldn't be more grateful that he called me to leave with, with what I'm getting to do now starting my business. So all that to say is either way, there's a fear involved. There's either the fear of looking crazy and the fear of man, or there's the fear of disobedience, the fear of missing out on God, using the fear of the Lord.
And I think we can train ourself to choose our fear, which fear is going to drive the decision. Because fears are probably involved. As far as visions, it's been interesting. I speaking of Ramsey, I feel like things when I left. And we see this pattern in scripture again, not to get so in the Bible, but this is just such a theme here.
Visions are biblical. And I knew that they're, I knew they were biblical, but I'd never had visions that I could like at least identify that was a vision from the Lord. And so I remember it was in [00:09:00] November. So exactly two years ago at the time of this recording, it was in November of 21, God had called me to leave.
And I don't know if I'd told them yet or not. I don't think I had, but I remember I was falling asleep one night. And I hadn't gone to sleep yet, but I said, Lord, I've never had visions, but I am so scared right now. And so if you have a vision for me, I want you to give it to me. I want you to give me that vision.
And so I had a vision, like I just saw in my mind. me walking through a tunnel and no one else was in the tunnel. But me and my kids were not in the tunnel. My husband was not in the tunnel. It was just me and Jesus and he was walking with me and the tunnel was, it wasn't super, super long, but it wasn't super short.
You couldn't see the end of it and we're walking. And it's very dark and it's very enclosed and it's scary cause it's dark and you don't know where you're going. And it feels very like, you know, tight quarters, but as we walk through it, the whole time, Jesus is with me. And as we walked through it, as we walk through it.
When I get to the other side, it's wide open, like bright white, [00:10:00] wide open. And I just knew that when I left, I was going to go through a tunnel. I knew that I was going to go through this testing and wilderness season and difficulty. And I didn't know what it would look like. And I didn't know how long it would be.
And honestly, I can't tell you, like, I feel precisely when it, here's when it started. Here's when it has ended or whatever. But I feel like I went through that, but that was the first vision. And since then I've gotten so many visions. I mean, I feel like I'm. I get them and not, not every week or even every month, but I get them somewhat regularly.
And the vision is always, the vision is always so it's so powerful that, you know, it couldn't be your own thoughts. That's the best way I could describe it where it feels so powerful that it's not yours. And and it teaches you visions teach you. And if you get a vision and you don't know what it means, you can ask the Lord to, to translate it for you.
Like, what does this mean? What are you showing me about this? And he will tell you maybe right then, maybe later, but visions are really powerful. And if you don't have them, pray for them. I literally prayed and asked God and he began to give them to me. [00:11:00] Yeah, that is so relatable to me because the visions that I've had Jesus has been there with me by my side and I didn't want to leave him.
Did you feel that way? Yes. Yeah. Yeah. And the visions will always. Affirm his word to you. Let me say that. I feel like I feel really compelled to say that right now. The vision will always confirm his word to you. So I had a vision. This is when I was leaving there. I had two visions on the same day. And I know again, you sound crazy, but it's fine.
I've never shared this vision publicly, but it just came to mind. So I'll share it because it's, I feel like enough time has gone by where I can share it safely. So on the day that I was leaving Ramsey or I'm sorry on the day that I was telling them, so I'd never told them I had requested a meeting, which everyone was like, what is this meeting about?
I pulled into the parking lot. And I pulled in at 815 and I didn't have to be in for staff meeting that day until 830. So I had 15 minutes and I sat in the parking lot. And as I'm in the parking spot, I'm facing the building. Now this building represents to me security relationships, my life's work. I grew up there.
I [00:12:00] was in my mid twenties. Like it represents so much. And I'm facing the building and the way the parking spot is that I, that I pulled into. And as I sat there, this is the second vision I ever had in my whole life after the tunnel vision. As I sat there and I just prayed like praying because I know I'm going in and I'm more scared than I've ever been in my life that I can remember.
And I had a vision of a fish tank and in this fish tank, I just see fish swimming and the Lord begins to speak to me. And he said, Christie, he said life in the fish tank. It is safe. Food is provided. It's predictable, but you weren't created for the fish tank. You were created for the ocean, where yes, it's more dangerous and you have to work for your own food, but you're free.
Wow. Yeah. Like I like, as I think about it, it's like. Okay. Vision confirmed his word to me that I have called you to leave this place that you've grown up, you know, which is good and right and safe at the time. And when it wasn't time, he was like, no, you're created for [00:13:00] more than this. And so anyway, but he's given me, he's given me visions.
I shared one recently about even my son's autism diagnosis and he gave me a vision around that. Like visions are so. It's like you will see something in your mind and the more that you do it, the more you readily, you recognize it where at first you're kind of like, what is that? Is it, was that a dream?
Was I asleep? But once you, it's a muscle that gets strengthened and you identify, Oh no, this is a vision from the Lord. Yeah. Yeah, definitely. And this is what I love about you too, Christy is in, when you mentioned pulling up in the, in the parking lot and you were afraid and. I mean, you could have easily said, no, I've changed my mind.
I'm not going to do this, but you are, you are not afraid to fail. And that's where I'll really, I love that about you, Christy, because so many people stay stuck because they're so afraid to fail. But I'm going to tell you one reason why I think that you're not afraid. Okay. I'm so curious. I'm going to tell you.
I know why Christy Wright is not afraid to fail. Okay. [00:14:00] So I turn on, I'm not on Instagram all the time and it sounds like I am, but you pop up there. You are. And I'm like, there's Christy. So you popped up one day. And, and I, you know, sometimes you have time to watch reels and videos and sometimes you don't and this was a moment with that.
I did not have time to sit and watch a video, but you started crying and I thought, what in the world is going on? Well, you started talking about how frustrated you were. Not being able to remember people's names and that ADHD was, it really had a hold on you at that point and you were having trouble balancing everything and Christy, I have battled that my entire life, my entire.
And so it was, that was another thing that was just so relatable to me. But when I heard that I went. This makes total sense. Now I understand Christy. Not that I study you all the time, but it just made total sense. [00:15:00] I went, this is why she is not afraid to fail because the ADHD brain where, you know, when we have ideas, we just go ahead and do it.
We don't stop and, think about it and, you know, talk to other people about it and get other people's opinions. We leave because our brains don't stop us there. Our brains are moving so quickly that other people, their brains say, whoa, don't do this. You know, they're out of protection to protect them and keep them safe.
But our brains have already moved past that point. And they don't stop us, which I think is a true gift. It keeps you from being stuck. So did you not realize before now that you had ADHD? Cause I can't imagine how frustrating that would be to have all these. Issues, which are a gift too, but they're all, they're also challenging and not understand why.
Okay. So it's so [00:16:00] fascinating. This whole story with ADHD, which I've not been officially diagnosed, but I might as well be because I'm textbook. So here's what's fascinating. I never, it never once crossed my mind that I had ADHD ever. And here's why, because again, at Ramsey, I had entire teams that did everything for me.
And I don't mean to sound like a diva, like, Oh, I don't do that. My job was to be the talent. And so all that I did was what I'm excellent at. I coached, I wrote, and I spoke. I'm brilliant at those things. I could do that in my sleep. I have a, I have an unfair advantage, how good I am at those things naturally, but also I've honed my craft for 15 years.
So I'm not having to do spreadsheets, details, calendars, expense reports, invoicing. I don't do anything that uses a part of my brain that is difficult for me. I literally only worked in my strengths. So what happened there was all of these structures around me, all of the support around me and the infrastructure of that massive machine and organization, plus having my [00:17:00] life planned for me 18 months in advance to the minute every lunch.
I mean, they were so excellent and planners. With that large of an organization that everything was managed, everything was managed for me. Now, I don't mean I didn't speak into it, but I was not having to juggle a bunch of very different tasks and I wasn't having to use a part of my brain that was difficult for me.
So I never knew. I never knew. I'm like, I just, I would go to work and do what I was great at wool. Fast forward to November. I, God calls me to leave and aside from the unbelievable grief of leaving my work family, my actual work, my income, my son was diagnosed with autism. Three months later, we had to let our name go because obviously we're living on savings at that point.
I hadn't started my business. My whole world was literally turned upside down and not to mention that I have no structure. No schedule. I'm now a stay at home mom, which I've never done full time stay at home mom with three kids with [00:18:00] three kids that I now know have ADHD. One has autism. I had ADHD. It was just, it was, it was, it was a zoo, Heather.
It was a zoo. So I'm then faced with. There are things going on that have been covered up by the structures and support and help that I've had, which has been wonderful. But if I'm going to function in this new reality, I need to learn these things about myself and put this in place. So that fall, my son Conley was diagnosed with ADHD and then my son Carter, he started to have some stuff going on.
And we're like, what is that? And then we find out he's ADHD. Well, then I start to look at my mom and I'm like, you are walking, talking billboards, like the missing link is me. This may explain. Why I've struggled to, to get my bearings, it explains activity, but it also struggles. It explains why I struggle with no schedule, running my own business with all these changes.
So it's really been such a learning curve over the last two years of learning this about myself and going, okay, now that I have that information. Let me put some structures in place. Let me put some schedules in place, you [00:19:00] know, because when you first leave Ramsey, you're like, I don't have to wear pants on rooms.
Like you're like, this is so great. And then you realize, you know, I need a schedule. I need an actual schedule. I need to get out of the house. I need to work in a coffee shop, not here because I'm going to get distracted by trying to rearrange, so it's just, it's just awareness I think is so powerful.
So I'm actually doing a, at the time that this is airing, I'm doing a goal setting webinar tomorrow, a live free goal setting webinar. And one of the things I'm teaching in this webinar, just for context of this conversation is what do you need to be successful? Different people need different things.
And if you don't know what you need, then you can't give yourself that. So I actually do need a schedule. I need. Like a deadline, someone asked me in one of my speaking course students, she said, I think I have ADHD. A lot of women are getting diagnosed in adulthood because in the eighties and nineties, we didn't look like little boys bouncing off the wall.
So it was missed in little girls. So a lot of adult women are like, Oh my gosh, I think that's me [00:20:00] remembering names. Stickiness everywhere, procrastinator, you know, impulsive, all these things, which there's a brilliant side because there's the creativity to it. But there's also that can be hard, especially running your own business.
So anyway I've, I've learned that I need this schedule and I need this structure. So I'm asking people, what do you need to be successful? Because now I'm going, you know, this, girl, my speaking coach class asks, Hey, I'm a lot like you and I just don't do anything. Until I have a deadline. I'm a procrastinator.
How can I plan ahead and not have a deadline? I go, you can't, you won't do it until you have the, you won't do it until the pressure. So I go, I literally write my talks. This is embarrassing to admit, but I'm just going to keep it real. I write my talks for speaking events on the plane to the event. That's how late that that's how last minute I am.
That would make someone else that would make my husband have a panic attack. He wants his like three months in advance of you is doing something with that high pressure. I thrive under pressure. I thrive. So why would I try to be anything other than how I'm wired? I actually do great under pressure. I do great with, I have to give myself deadlines, you know, I'm working on a new [00:21:00] book and I talked to mom.
And then I'm like, well, when do you, when do you want to turn it in? I go, well, you just have to give me a deadline. Because if you just say turn it in sometime, it's never going to get turned in. Just tell me, let's make something up together and then I'll hit it. You know? That was so funny because , that's my life, Christy, you definitely just laid it out.
That's my life. There's a lot of us like this. Yes. There's a lot of us, especially in this , podcast world, a lot. So how, how are you balancing home life and being an entrepreneur with ADHD? What tools have you put in place where you share? I know you're going to offer this course, which is fabulous.
I love that you're doing that. Absolutely. And this thing tomorrow is on a course. It's just a free webinar to help people kick off their year. But what it is, is it. It's helping you identify what you need. I'll give you a great example. This morning, I had on my calendar, because I like to make things tactical, like real life examples, I had on my calendar from eight to nine to write some upcoming podcast episodes.
My house assistant that works part time [00:22:00] that helps me with the kids and helps me with carpool and all these different things. She comes in around 1030. And so I had about an hour with my daughter, Mary Grace, that I had put on my calendar to write. Now that is just stupid, Heather. I cannot write when she is home.
I cannot write when Mary Grace is home. If I don't have help, she's in here a hundred times a day. Then I'm getting mad at her. I'm getting frustrated at her. I can't think I can't be creative. I can't write my stories or write my content that is setting me up to fail and be a bad mom to put on my calendar that I'm going to write when Mary Grace is here.
And I don't have help. That's unrealistic. So again, what do I need to be successful? I need to plan my writing time either not here at a coffee shop or only when Kaylee is here. That is, I'm like, Oh, I'm just unrealistic. I'll try to squeeze things. No, no, no. So we're not doing that. It's like every day that I learned something new about myself.
I try to really analyze and go worked about that or what didn't work about that or why didn't that work or why did that work and then how can we do something different and just make changes to your habits, small [00:23:00] changes, unimpressive changes that actually set you up for success. So I would rather have three hours uninterrupted at a coffee shop.
Or three hours here where Kaylee is here, where then 30 minutes here and there where Mary Grace's, I need a snack. I need a snack. I can't focus. So I think a lot of it, when we talk about balancing, I think it's understanding what you need to be successful. I need to be, have large blocks of time for my work away from here or away from the kids.
I, even with ADHD, I can't, even if they're out there being loud, I can't like, I'm just distracted. And then Mary Grace is crying. And I'm like, does Kaylee need help? You can't, especially for anyone watching. If you think you have a propensity to distraction, maybe not even ADHD, but you just tend to get distracted.
Like a lot of creatives do, then you need to literally put on blinders, whether that's at a coffee shop or somewhere else, get physically out of your, your place of distraction. For many women, the home is a place of nothing but distraction. Oh, I need to fix those blinds. Oh my [00:24:00] gosh, I got to take the trash out.
I haven't sent my Christmas. How am I supposed to work here? It's not even 5 million distractions screaming at me. I literally have to go somewhere else where I can do nothing but work. Drink coffee and work. And so understanding what you need to be successful, being really realistic with yourself I think is important.
Also this is a tactical thing, but beginning to put things on your calendar that you don't normally put on your calendar, but that absolutely need to happen for you to be successful. So another thing I'm really guilty of, this is just confessional with Heather. Here we go. Confessional. I don't eat. I'm really bad about not eating and it's just because I'm busy and distracted.
I don't want to stop the effort of make a turkey sandwich. I don't. And so I will go lots and lots and lots of days. Without eating breakfast or lunch by the time, like four o'clock hits, I'm angry. I've got a headache, my blood sugar, like I'm terrible. Why would I do that to myself? I have food right there, right there.
It's because I don't put it on my calendar. And so now that sounds silly, but I will, because I'll think to myself, [00:25:00] Oh, I'll go get one more thing done or, Oh, I've got a, you know, I have to put it on my counter. So before I went live for this interview, I had a bagel because I hadn't had anything at this morning.
And then I'm going to have lunch afterwards. I put it on your counter because if not, It won't happen. And a lot of times those simple and unimpressive as those steps are, as like obvious as they are, we don't do that. And then we don't eat. And then we try to multitask when our kids are home. We're screaming at our kids.
We're not getting our writing done. These are fixable problems. If we would be very brutally honest with ourselves about what we need to be successful, like food. And yeah, quiet space to write. It's not rocket science. It's just, we don't do it. And so I really want to help people have a good look in the mirror and go, what do you need to be successful?
And what is realistic in your life? And how can we put these structures in place so that you can actually achieve your goals? Because Craig Rochelle has a great quote on this. He says, you do not achieve your goals based on your goals that you set. You achieve them based on your systems. You will rise or [00:26:00] fall to your systems.
You will, you, you have a system for eating or not eating. You have a system for writing. It may suck. You may hit snooze 50 times in the morning, but that's your system. You have a system for getting up. Your system sucks, but you have one. So we all have systems. And so we need to change our systems if we want to change the results.
And so I want to help people have bet a better look in the mirror to know what systems do I need so that then we can achieve our goals. Cause the goals doesn't matter what goals you write on a sticky note or a vision board, the system to achieve it. You're not going to. Yeah. I love that you're offering this.
And so what else do you have planned? You serve women so well. I feel like you're serving men now too. Do you? Yeah. Yeah. Yes. I feel like they've always been there. I've just, I've just not really spoken to them now. I'm just not excluding them, I guess. They just show up. So what are your plans for the future?
Well, I'm super, thank you for asking. I'm super excited because I'm getting back into business this year. What I mean by that is business [00:27:00] coaching. And so, you know, I had the business boutique brand with Ramsey and that all stayed with Ramsey and got retired, which was very sad. Goodbye business, be T. But now after a little break with being home with my kids and dealing with, you know, these different diagnoses and having a season of rest and building my own business.
Now I'm really excited to get back into coaching and training and encouraging people in business. Because I think that's something I'm really uniquely gifted to do. I have a I have a style where I take complex, overwhelming concepts and make them really simple cookies on the bottom shelf, like, you know, like just really simple, tactical things that actually help people.
folks. Build their business. And so I've started a new business podcast, business bootcamp with Chrissy, right? And so it's just fun to get back into business from the podcasting side. I've got, you know, courses I launched last fall, but I'll have more courses coming out this year, but just continuing to help people in speaking and presenting, but also helping them in their building and their business.
Cause that's what they've been asking for. And I just needed a little break, but now we're back to it. Now we're back to business. That's fantastic. I'm excited for [00:28:00] you. That's fantastic. You have had so much growth since you left Ramsey. In what area have you grown the most?
Okay. This is a great question. By the way. I Went through, I'll start with an example in a story because I feel like it's something the Lord told me. This was probably a year after leaving Ramsey, I felt like that when I needed something needed an answer, a solution, a paycheck, a provision, anything, a decision, I never had it till the very last minute.
And I'm not talking about the ADHD procrastinating, like where I put this on myself. I mean, like I would pray about it, plan on it, work on it, write on it, try all the things. And I just, I just didn't have it until the very last minute. And then always at the very last minute, God would come through. The door would be opened, a phone call would happen, the check would come in, an opportunity would come in, the decision, the direction, the clarity, the vision, the like, this is, this is a definitive yes or no, but it was always last minute and it was really unnerving to me, you know, because I'm type A, I'm a go getter, I am a planner, I'm a control [00:29:00] freak, I'm an Enneagram eight challenger and I come from Ramsey, which again, they are excellent.
At planning, budgeting, excellence at everything, like planning way ahead and we, you know, managing things down to the detail. And so one day I was driving in my car. I can remember it as clear as day. I was driving down Cloverland Road over here in Brentwood. And I was just frustrated in my car. I can't remember what it was.
I was so frustrated. I think I'd actually just gotten an answer, but it was so last minute. And I was like, Lord, I was like, what is going on? I was like, you just. You're giving me what I need, but you're giving it to me. So last minute, like it's making me a nervous wreck. What is going on? And he said so clear, Heather, he spoke to me, said, you know how to plan.
You have 12 years of training and planning. I don't need to teach you how to plan. You know how to plan. You need to learn to walk by. Wow. You need to learn to walk by faith. So when you say, and that was probably, you know, a year and a half ago when you say, Christy, what have you grown the most in walking by faith Heather, but let me tell you, it's still hard.
I'd love to say, Oh, it's so easy. I have no idea how my life's going to [00:30:00] turn out and I'm great with it. No, I'm not. It's, it's excruciating. It's excruciating. And you know, this morning, even just being really super transparent this morning, I woke up. And I woke up at like 4 55 and I just felt this, like, this is going to sound all weird, but that's fine.
It's just, I don't know how to describe it. It felt like there was this spirit over me or a shadow over me, a fear specifically fear about money. And it was like, we're in my money. Like, I'm fine. Like, I'm fine. So I don't even know where it's coming from, but it's this irrational, like worry about three months from now and worry about bills three months from now.
Like it was this spirit, it felt like an assault from the outside. It did not feel like it was from me. It wasn't like, Oh, I got a bill and I was stressed about it. Like that would be a logical response. There was nothing I woke up and it was like this oppressive fear. So I came upstairs to have my quiet time and my devotional for the day, of course, just spoke directly to me of God is faithful.
And, you know, they didn't use an example of a checkbook. Like it's God's checkbook and like all this stuff where it's like the Lord speaks directly to you. But as I sat there, I just really felt the [00:31:00] Lord impress upon me to go read about the manna in Exodus. So open up Exodus and I read about the manna and I believe it's verse four that says after the Lord has given the instructions to Moses and tell them gather what they need for each day, nothing more, but manna rained from heaven.
So the, the impression is that there was an excess each day. Where they could have gathered more, but he instructed them, do not gather more than you need for each day for each day, you will have, you'll have men except for the sixth day you gather for Sabbath. And it said in verse four, in this way, he tested them.
He tested them to see if they would walk by faith. He tested them to see if they would follow, if they would obey, if they would follow his instructions of I'm giving you enough for today, but I will also, you, you're trusting I'm going to give you tomorrow's. And I read that and I was just like, man, that feels so accurate to this last two years where I have things I could do.
To create more margin, more security for myself. And the Lord has said no to keep me in this place of like feeling a little [00:32:00] squeezed, feeling more uncomfortable than I want to be, honestly. And I looked over the corner of my eye and our Christmas trees over in the corner, and there's three wrapped presents under it.
And then there are three advent calendars for my kids that will open up on the 30th of or at the time of this recording on the 30th of November for December 1st through 24th. And the four, three different advent calendars with little like things in there, you know, for the kids. And he was like, look at the advent calendars.
And I looked and he goes, why don't you want them to open all the boxes on one day? And I said, cause I want to, I want them to enjoy it. I want them to enjoy it every day. And I want, I want to enjoy watching them open every day. He said, yeah, I want to enjoy you trusting me every day when I provide for you.
Oh wow. Christie. Yeah. How? So when you talk about the walking by faith. That was something I struggled with just this morning. It's an everyday thing. I would love to tell you I'm on the other side. I've arrived. It's so easy walking by faith is hard. It goes against [00:33:00] our flesh nature of controlling. It goes against the original sin in the garden of, of distrusting God, taking matters into our own hands.
We're going to wrestle against this every day of our lives, probably. And some, sometimes it might be easier than others, but I just want to, if I've grown anything, I've grown and walking my faith and it's still hard. It's still hard. We, we want, we want, we always want to control things ourselves and provide our own security.
And God says, I love you too much to let you depend on you for your security because you will fail you, but I will never fail you, but you've got to learn to walk by faith, which means not knowing the next step when you take a step, not knowing where tomorrow's manna is going to come from when I give you today's manna and you just every single day you're walking by faith and trusting that I'm going to provide for you.
And it is hard and it's also what we were created for. Yeah. It's so funny, Christy, because I had lunch with some friends the other day and I said, you know, the Bible tells us there will always be trials and tribulations, but yet when things happen, I'm always still surprised.
[00:34:00] Are you that way? Did I do something wrong? Are you mad at me? Always. Oh, wait, we all do that. I know. Christy, I could talk to you all day. This has been so much fun, but before we go, I want to ask you one more question. So there are BFFs who are listening right now , and they have been hearing these God whispers.
I have a friend named Leah Key and she calls them God whispers, but they're too afraid to act on them. So what would you like to say? To these ladies who feel stuck, but they also hear these whispers. What would you like to say to encourage them? Two things of it. You don't have to feel confident to take a step.
You can be scared and still do it. I was scared out of my mind. I wish you could see how scared I was leaving Ramsey. That's an extreme example, but I'm even scared sometimes when I go on Instagram and say something, I'm not sure if I'm supposed to say or not. You can feel that fear and still do it. So don't let your [00:35:00] feelings of fear disqualify you to, Oh, well, I'm scared.
I must not should do it. No, no, no, none of us. I did a podcast episode on this a long time ago, but. On my get your hopes up podcast. None of us ever get to a hundred percent in the faith life. It's faith. You were talking about a God. You can't see like, it's never a hundred percent. Sometimes I get to 70 or 80%.
I was probably 90 percent sure I was such a Lee Ramsey, but you're always like 10 percent going, did I like connect dots that aren't connected, right? Sometimes Heather, I'm 51%. I'm like barely tilting towards, I think I should do this. I'm not sure. So you don't have to feel a hundred percent confident or even 70 percent confident to take a step.
If you're feeling a whisper or a nudge or a sense, here's what I would say, follow it, take a step of faith, speak something, act on it. It's actually your actions that unlock the further confirmation. It says that in I can't remember which book of the Bible is, but it says. And he took action signs following.
We want signs to act. And God goes, Oh no, you go [00:36:00] first act. And then I will give you signs on the backend that what you did was correct. So you're actually not getting the confirmation you're looking for because you won't act. It's your actions that unlock the confirmations, the blessing, the further whispers that you're asking God for.
You're asking him for more whispers. He's like, you haven't acted on the ones I gave you. Why would I give you more? So yeah. Acting on it. And it doesn't have to be an impressive action. It doesn't have to be a Jerry Maguire, leave your job action. It could literally be just telling your friend, saying it out loud.
God tells you to send a text and you send the text. Low risk, but you've taken an action. What's interesting is God is so patient with us. He's not, he is not. I'm going to ask you to do something life altering when you've never obeyed in sending the text, he's going to build you up and strengthen in that muscle, he's going to give you training wheels, where I think it has been years of God asking me to do small acts of obedience that he knew if he asked me to walk out of my job, I would do it.
And I [00:37:00] believe that, you know, they're not all big, not all small, but I think that God knows what we can handle when we can handle it. And so if he's asking you to do something, he's expecting, he's trusting you to do it. And he's gonna, he's gonna keep bothering you about it. So you might as well do it because the Holy Spirit is persistent.
But I think there's a lot of blessing and a lot of more confirmations, more directions on the other side of your obedience and what is keeping you from it is your lack of taking a step. But delayed, I can't remember who said this delayed obedience is disobedience. Yeah. Not over that's disobedience.
You're actually are taking an action. Not doing something is an action. You're just choosing your way and your fear or fear of man over God's instruction to you. And you're putting it under the banner of, I'm not sure it's you. And he's like, no, you know what I said, you know what I said, go do it. Go do it.
That is so true. So how can we follow you? Get in touch with you? Yeah. So I'm on Instagram at Christie B. Wright, and then online [00:38:00] christiewright. com. And if you want, it's not too late to sign up if you're listening to this live or the first day it's released, it's not too late to sign up for my free webinar, five goals you need to be successful this year, which is just a free goal setting session where we'll talk about your business and your life.
And that you can join at christieright. com as well. Fantastic. That webinar sounds wonderful. Thank you, Christy. And thank you so much for your time today. I have loved every second of this. Thanks for having me. I loved it. Let's do it again. Yes. Thanks again for joining me. today. This has been so great this time with Christie. It was amazing. I just loved hearing what she had to say. My heart is so full. I hope that yours is as well. If you haven't already, please go to 
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155 | Susan Hendricks on Journalism, CNN, and "Down the Hill"

On this episode of Life Coach BFF Show, host Heather Pettey welcomes Susan Hendricks, a distinguished news anchor, journalist, and the author of the riveting book "Down the Hill."
Join us as we peel back the layers to discover the human side of journalism, exploring the emotions that drive the face and voice behind our daily news.
Susan reflects on her time anchoring at CNN, sharing the challenges and joys of being a trusted voice in the fast-paced world of news reporting. We delve into why Susan affectionately refers to herself as a "news mom" and how this term encapsulates the profound responsibility of delivering impactful stories to the world.
The episode takes a poignant turn as we explore Susan's book,
Down the Hill,  focusing on the tragic story of Abby Williams and Libby German, two young lives lost in Delphi, Indiana, in 2017. Discover why Susan felt compelled to tell their story and the personal and professional impact this endeavor had on her.
Don't miss this powerful conversation that goes beyond the headlines and delves deep into the heart of the stories that shape our world. Join us in understanding the complexities of journalism and the genuine passion that fuels Susan Hendrick's dedication to storytelling.
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Susan Hendricks, an accomplished anchor, formerly held the position at HLN and served as a substitute anchor at CNN, stationed at the global headquarters in Atlanta. Beyond her professional endeavors, Susan is also a dedicated family person. She has gracefully balanced her career with her role as a spouse and parent. In addition to her anchoring duties at CNN, Susan made notable appearances on CNN Pipeline, the on-demand broadband news service on CNN.com.
 
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Heather is a perfectly imperfect wife of 28 years to David, mom to 4 amazing humans ages 12 to 26, and lover of Jesus. She's a closet peanut M&M and Goldfish cracker consumer.
 
She is passionate about encouraging women to find joy and remain sane while parenting teens. The laughter and support happens weekly on her podcast, Life Coach BFF Show. When not podcasting, she's coaching women to live confidently, set clear boundaries, and learn to build their fire in the rain.
 
The mindset coach is also the author of Keep It Simple, Sarah: Powerful Words and Encouragement for Christian Teen Girls.
 
Heather has made appearances on CNN Headline News and other media. She believes life is a long line of lessons, and in her opinion, it’s all about faith and good ol' common sense. She happily resides with her family in Memphis, TN.
 
 
*Quick Disclaimer- Heather Pettey is a certified coach and not a therapist. Always seek the support of a therapist for clinical mental health issues.